4 Feb

Love and Marriage…

Posted by Mizz Jae in Family, Love, Sentimental.

Remember when you were young and your parents had so much advice for you? Like don’t do this and don’t do that and remember this and remember that. I remember some of those things and would tell myself I had my own way and had my own life to live. Ironically, after having kids, I could totally picture myself being that type of parent. I think I have mentioned this in my older posts. Life is truly meant to be lived, but once you get to a certain point, you live it backwards for others- like Benjamin Button sort to say. I have no regrets in my life and I love living the life I live, so don’t get me wrong. A lot of it has to do with the fact that I am living it with the right man. Honestly, if it were not for me having the husband that I have, would I truly be happy and content with where I am now in life? If I didn’t have the hubby that I do have, I would probably have more stress raising the kids or doing more mommy things all on my own. I would probably have more nights alone because not all husbands are like mine- the one who prefers to stay home with the family instead of going out with friends. I was blessed with a husband who is so understanding and a husband who took in my family as if it were his own. I have a husband who is committed to family and knows what being a husband and father mean. In more ways than one, I am very lucky.

So remember when your parents told you to slow down? Don’t get married too quickly. Enjoy your life. Go to school. See the world. There’s so much more. I picture myself as being that kind of parent because when I look all around me, I see a lot of people rushing through life without stopping to take a breath. They finish school. Get married. Buy a house. Have babies. The end result however is divorce for many of them. If only having babies could come as the last step. Unfortunately, having babies is the TEST that many couples have to go through.  Many people have not been there and done that. They didn’t get to enjoy life or go to school or see the world and only realize that once they have kids. Now these poor kids are suffereing having divorced parents because their parents did not realize they were not ready until the babies came into their life. I wish there was a course in college that covers all of this. That building a family is a bond and a promise. It should not be one that just ends in divorce because you have chosen to give up. Divorce is almost as popular now as getting married. You just sign a paper and voila- it’s done. Unfortunately, when kids are involved, it is not as easy FOR THEM as it may be for the parents! Truly, I think that before you become a parent, you have to have the right mind set and maturity level. Just because you’re married and have a house does not constitute you to have the right to bring a baby into this world. Having kids is a much greater commitment than having all of the above. It breaks my heart to see this trend.

This was all brought on because as I was looking for invitations online, I came across DIVORCE PARTY invitations. It was pretty interesting and it hit a soft spot in me. There are now celebrations for these things as much as you celebrate your wedding. How ridiculous is this? So if you are reading this, make sure you enjoy life and get everything out of your system before you bring a person into this world that we live in. Parenthood is a commitment of both parents guiding their children together as a family!

I understand that it cannot always happen this way if you have children before you get married, but if you guys get married first and then have children, you should stay true to  your marriage vows and work harder on being a family. Being a single parent is hard. So to those who have children without getting married and surviving on their own, much props to you. Things happen in this world for a reason. To those who are committing themselves to marriage, I hope that you have made a conscious decision in knowing your lifetime partner is there to the very end- or to the very least, that you two will work things out to the best of your abilities when the going gets tough. Some people get married just to get married and walk down the aisle. They do it without really thinking about what it really is. They are just fulfilling their childhood dream of having that fairytale wedding. Marriage is not an act of getting married on that one bliss filled day. It is a future and a forever status. It’s so easy to step out and just give up. We have to work much harder than just taking the easy way out! More importantly, we have to stop getting married just to get married knowing in the back of our minds that you can divorce. You have to be truly sure that he/she is worth it in the end so that fighting for that person will be worth it as well.

2 Feb

Where Did the Month Go?

Posted by Mizz Jae in Randomness.

I can’t believe that’s it is already February. I felt like I was wishing you guys a happy new year just yesterday. Anyhow, I think this will be a busy month for me. I got myself another job as a registry nurse closer to my home. For all of you who are not in the health field, I basically schedule myself to work whenever I want. It’s kind of necessary since I only work three days a week and I spend money like it grows on trees. Honestly, my hubby and I need o be more financially responsible, but we are not. OUR motto is that you only live once. You never know when the end will come, so you gotta just enjoy life and your money. Saving is not even in our vocab. Irresponsible, I know! So starting this Friday marks the first day of my 16 day in a row work flow. What the? I have never ever in my life worked that many days in a row. At least it will all be paid, right? My interview and acceptance of my new job was all so random and not planned for. My assistant manager was kind enough to let me have the two weeks off. Since I felt guilty, I offered to work the weekends when he took me off the schedule for those two weeks. I can already see my crankiness level at its highest on Day 16. At least my orientation times are only 8-430PM, so I am not expecting it to be too bad! I guess I’m just really trying to look at the bright side.

Life otherwise has been pretty good. The girls are growing up right before my very eyes. Sometimes I tear up just when I think of it. Janelle is still my little baby, but she is so big and doing more and more things independently. Jasmyne has pretty much been independent since she started walking. LoL! She honestly was feeding herself before she turned one. Her language skills were always above and beyond those her same age. So I am honestly enjoying “babying” Janelle. I feel like I didn’t get to do that with Jasmyne. We almost have a routine of playing Wii all times of the day in our bedroom. Yes! We have to take turns with each other and Jasmyne as well. The only thing I really play is the “shooting” game on Wii Play. For some reason, I am addicted to trying to beat the highest score. It’s so crazy! I wish I didn’t start it again. I’m not even trying to look at our guitar for Hero! Well I’m gonna try to enjoy my next two days off- kinda like the calm before the storm. The song above calms me. I spent moost of the day downloading songs into my beloved iMAC. This song definitely brings it way back.

I think this month, I will be busy trying to pack a box or two to send to the Philippines for our trip. I need to have so many things for the girls while I am there. I HATE to pack for the worst because it doesn’t seem like a vacation, but that is what I am going to have to do. On my short list: Diapers Galore, Clorox Wipes, all types of medicine, IV fluids, all sorts of ointments, Cereals, Geber Sausage Links, all sorts of snacks and food, Mosquito Drugs and oh so much more. My list is so bad that I have to pre-send the boxes over to prevent us having to bring it all on top of everything else. I am more anxious than excited about this trip. If it were totally up to me, I would not go, but we must. Oh well. I gotta stop procrastinating and get to it this time around.

I also hate when things go wrong at the wrong times. It’s like when you’re late for work and you catch all the red lights and all the slow traffic is right ahead of you. I started printing some much needed stuff and my printer decides to act up! It says that there is no more ink when I just got it filled last month. I knew that guy did not know what he was doing! The hubby better fix that issue by tonight! Oh my poor hubby always getting the better half of me! Gotta love him! Goodnight everyone!

18 Jan

Love my TOYS!

Posted by Mizz Jae in Randomness.

So I finally got my Keurig Coffee Maker and I must say it is one of the best things ever created- for ME! I only like to drink flavored coffee and for the most part- ICED!. Nobody else in the house drinks flavored coffee. Nobody else likes to drink iced coffee either. My parents drink Decaf, so making coffee in the morning was pretty chaotic. Okay. Okay. It wasn’t that chaotic. It was just not that satisfying for me. Therefore, I rarely had a cup of coffee at home. I usually waited until we stepped out of the house and bought it somewhere. So enter my new Keurig obsession and we have solved everything. Everyone is happy with their coffee needs everyday and WE HAVE NOT bought a cup of coffee from anywhere since our purchase. It has pretty much paid for itself overnight. I ordered a whole bunch of different flavors for myself. Extra Bold for the hubby. Decaf for my parents. Tea for everyone. The best part is that everything is single serving. No coffee in the pot wasted. Everyone makes a cup of their liking. I have a different flavor every single day. I even have it twice a day sometimes. I can also have my lemon tea before I go to bed. It has also saved Dex and I money and time. We had to stop by McD’s or Dunkin D’s every morning to get our coffees before going to work. Now, we brew and go to work. Oh the simple pleasures in life that I do so love.

Another thing I have grown to love is my new MAC, and I am not talking about make-up. Although my eyes feel beaten up by the big 27 inch beauty that I am staring at, it is one of the best things ever created. I love it! I have a lot of pictures, and I must say that I may just have to say goodbye to my FLiCKR account. My new Mac functions just like it, if not better. I still have a lot of learning to do, but so far so good. I was a bit hesitant to get one before, but after countless visits to the Apple store, I was convinced that I had to get that “cool looking” thing not knowing anything about it. I have Jasmyne to thank for it for always wanting to go to that darn Apple store at Woodfield. Now,  I find myself excited to go home to get to know my Macky better each day. I am excited to go home to have a cup of lemon tea. HAHAHA. Okay. I think this means I need to stop blogging about my loser life. Have a good night everyone! I leave you a picture of my new baby and some of the goodies.


3 Jan

Happy New Year

Posted by Mizz Jae in Holidays.

My first post in a new decade… as I start off my new decade as well. My New Year was pretty rough. Tito Tom and family were over for the holidays, so we were pretty tired from sleeping in late almost every night. We also had to work the NYE/NYD holiday so we were pretty tired in general. Yesterday, we had a get together with Dexter’s cousins, which is turning out to be an annual thing. We didn’t plan it that way, but it is. We had lunch at Cheesecake Factory and hung out at Woodfield with Dar and Vida. To my great surprise, I lost weight during the holidays. I stepped off the scale and stepped back on three times just to make sure- and sure enough, it wasn’t lying to me. I don’t really have any resolutions this year. I’m just gonna do the dew- know what I mean jelly bean? If they happen, they happen and if they don’t then they don’t.

I have so many pictures I have to organize from the past two months. I have yet to build an album of any sort. I have loads and loads of pictures just hanging out in our computer. I need to make something out of all of ‘em. Dex got me my iMAC 27 inch for the holidays. I didn’t know whether I was going to keep it, despite my previous post on not returning any of his gifts. I just wish he’d one day give me a “normal” gift that I didn’t have to think about keeping. I DID decide to keep it though. We’ve always wanted our personal computer in our bedroom, so I am very excited to open it. YES! I haven’t opened it yet. I just decided today that I would keep it. I will let you all know how it goes! At least it may be the one thing I’m looking for to keep my photos and videos organized because iPHOTO is directly connected with FLiCKR. Yipppppie!!!!

Anyway, just stopping on by to wish everyone a happy new year! May it be everything you all wanted- and more.

22 Dec

Hello 30!

Posted by Mizz Jae in Lists, Sentimental, Thoughts.

So I have reached the new 20 and will turn 30 on December 24th at 11:11PM to be exact! I was getting pretty emotional the other day lying in bed and couldn’t sleep thinking back about all the ups and downs I have been through. Sometimes I still can’t believe how far I have gotten and am truly very excited to see what lies ahead. The song above is definitely one of those songs that “sings”  my song of life. Here goes a list of what the last decade of my life was. I warmly welcome another decade- and will inhale each change and moment, because my twenties sure ran past me. Happy (advanced) 30th Birthday to me! It’s definitely an emotional one and a special marker of my life!

1. I turned 21 of course. For me it was a big thing because I never had a fake ID and I seriously did not start drinking until I turned 21. It was one of those exciting moments because I was pretty innocent to all that other stuff! Nowadays, I think people turn 21 and say “been there and done that” all the time.

2. When I was 20-21, I reunited with the love of my life. If turning 21 and being able to go out was a new excitement for me, Dexter was definitely brought into my life at the right moment. Although he was one of those that have been there and done that since he was probably 10 years old, I think my innocence to it all kinda attracted him. Getting re-connected with him has definitely changed my life. He took me to so many trips and introduced me to so many things. Simply, he taught me how to be generous and genuine! I’m truly lucky and blessed and proudly say that to everyone that knows him!

3. 21 was also a tough time in regard to nursing school. I had been currently working for Jewel Food for 5 years and truly enjoyed my job at the service desk. I was also a year and a half away from graduating nursing school. I really wanted to work at the hospital to gain experience in the one thing I was going to do for the rest of my life. So I was going to school full-time and working two jobs that I both loved. I also needed them both to pay for my car and bills and SCHOOL! That’s when Dexter’s generosity really proved to me that he loved me a whole bunch!

4. I graduated nursing school when I was 22. It was a really proud moment to have actually accomplished a goal that I had ever since I could remember. I think I was truly meant to be a nurse. There are no nurses in my family and I had never been to the hospital, but as a child, when people asked me what I wanted to be, my response was always the same- a nurse! I’m glad I made that choice, because I couldn’t have picked a better career that would allow me to work 3 days a week and go on so many vacations and still be able to make a good living for my family!

5. I took my NCLEX and passed and officially became a nurse in 2003! I was so nervous and thought I wouldn’t be able to pass, but thankfully with one month of studying like crazy- I did it!

6. I had one of my first real experience of death in more ways than one. It was my first experience of watching someone dying and it was my first experience of having someone dying in my family. It is a day I will not forget and it was actually the day that I took my NCLEX exam. I know Tita Ludy was there to help me pass my exam. We miss you Tita!

7. I moved out and moved in with Dexter in 2003, the same year I got my first “real job” as a nurse. Talk about moving quickly, huh? It was a big life changer- but a very positive one. It was a great and memorable experience building our first house from scratch.

8. On July 15, 2004 I said YES when Dexter proposed to me at Geja’s Cafe in Chicago after spending a beautiful day together! The day was perfect and I can still remember all the details.

9. A little over a year of planning and settling all the details, we got married on August 13th, 2005. Hands down, one of the best times of my life. I don’t regret any part of it and as much as it cost in the end- it was well worth every single penny spent! We then went to Playa del Carmen Mexico for a week. It was HEAVEN and it became my favorite place EVER. We have yet to come back there, but i think we’re saving it for a special time because it is a very special place for us. After a week in Playa, we went on a week long cruise to the bahamas and we had a blast! Our honeymoon is one of those special times in our life. Memorable!

10. Not very many people can say that they know the exact time of when they got pregnant and in what position or what was said after “being impregnated” unless you are ME! To make a VERY long story short I can get pregnant as easily as you say GO. My bun in the oven started baking on our trip to the Philippines October 2005! HAHAHA!

11. Jasmyne was born July 25th. It wasn’t according to plan, but I’m so glad I didn’t stick with the books. She has been the best present I ever received. Having my first baby and going through the process of labor and delivery was BAD, but well worth it in the end.

12. Amidst a looming recession, we were able to sell our townhome and lost just a little bit of money on it. We took the first offer and said DEAL! With a newborn baby in hand, we were on a mission to move into an apartment far far away. It was one of the most stressful things I have had to deal with- if not the most stressful thing I’ve ever had to do in all my life.

13. July 12, 2007 we closed on our 2nd (and current home) after a stressful year of living in a small apartment with my whole family and a newborn to top it all off. That only means that we had to pack up again and move and start from scratch all over again.

14. Just when we thought we couldn’t get any busier, we decided out of the blue while we were talking on our way to work that we wanted to have another baby. This talk occured one day after New Year’s. I stopped taking my pills. I missed my period that month and got a positive test the third week of January. I told you I could get pregnant as fast as you say GO!

15. We spent our first vacation (and first time being away from Jasmyne for more than 4 hours) in Vegas 2008 for our anniversary. We had fun, but I was in tears every single day missing my Jasmyne pooper who refused to talk to me the whole time we were there.

16. October 26th- our next angel Janelle was born. It was an easy delivery, but PAINFUL labor. By the time I got to the hospital I was 6cm dilated. The car ride going to the hospital was probably one I will not forget. It was like a scene from a movie where the wife about to have a baby is screaming at her husband at 3am to get there NOW!

17. February 2009 I got my nose pierced! I removed it like 5 months later, but it was one of those things where I decided to have one and did it a day later. That’s how it works if you see the trend above!

18. Jasmyne starts Pre-school and my husband and I manage to have a 3 year old and a one year old by October 2009. It has been tough, but the tough times is slowly coming to an end. Slowly, but surely!

19. My grandma passes away in another one of those death experiences I will not forget. She was in hospice and it was very challenging for me. I went from my first death experience with my Tita Ludy, to all of a sudden being experienced with death by the time my Lola passed. It’s so hard to sometimes separate the emotions of going though the motions of hospice because i deal with death and dying all the time. So telling my family and talking about hospice in the early stages was so easy for me. I knew it was the right decision at the time. It was one of those things that definitely got me in the end and when I got the text message from my dad that she was gone, I just lost it at work. It has taught me that in life, you should tell people how you feel and not to hold grudges. Sometimes it will be too late to talk to someone. Thankfully for me, it was close, but not close enough!

There is my last decade in a nutshell! WoW! I was in tears just thinking of all my little and big life events. The constant in it is my family- especially my understanding and loving husband. You all may think it’s cheesy, but I have been truly blessed. I pray for continued blessings for more years to come!


HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE!


15 Dec

NINE & TEN DAYS

Posted by Mizz Jae in Holidays, Thoughts.

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I am very proud to say that I am done with all my Christmas shopping except for our family grab bag. I think that is pretty good considering I have a BIG shopping list, most which consists of little kids. I am also very proud to say that my tree is almost packed- meaning I have wrapped most of the gifts and placed them there ready to be opened. I am also proud to say that I sent my holiday cards earlier than I normally do in previous years. I don’t know what it is this year, but I am wired about Christmas. I decorated the house and even bought candy canes to line my driveway. We also went to Winter Wonderland last week and I highly recommend it for all of you who have children. It was like a Christmas Carnival and so very festive. My kids had a blast- and I secretly did too. The only thing that sucks and kills my mood is this cold weather, but I have surprisingly held up and stayed pretty upbeat this season.

So there is TEN more days until Christmas and NINE more days until I welcome another decade of life and say goodbye to my twenties. I will write about it later, but my TWENTIES have been a whirlwind of change after change after change. I’m very excited to see what the next 10 years holds for me. I am predicting that it will be much more calm than the last ten years. I am obviously expecting more changes through my children than that of myself.

Anyway, I completely forgot that I have to get my husband a Christmas gift too. I’ve been so blah during the holidays over the years that my poor husband always gets the dead ends of my crappy holiday mood. I really want to make up for it this year since I’m so happy this time around. One of my friends also told me that I have to learn to accept gifts given to me. Ever since I can remember, even as a child, I would always feel guilty for getting NICE gifts. I would always say “Oh you don’t have to” or “Please take it back. It’s too much” or “Are you sure”. I always feel guilty inviting people to go places in fear that they would feel like they “had” to come, when in fact, I NEVER mind when they have other plans. I’m just weird that way. Anyway, Dex may secretly like this personality of mine, but I  have come to find that he HATES when I return his gifts.  I do this not only during the holidays, but for many occasions throughout the year. I guess I don’t feel like I need a lot of those things and I didn’t think he would be so hurt by it. I honestly always tell him NOT to get me anything- and I honestly would not be mad. It is not one of those tricky things that a woman says. LoL. This year, I WILL accept whatever is given to me by anyone. I won’t reject it or I won’t say “Are you sure about that” or “You don’t have to get my kids anything”  like I normally would. I guess it is offensive to people, even though I don’t think of it in that way. With that, THANK YOU Natalie for my kids’ present! I’m sure they will love it. *wink*

Now I’m just thinking what I can get someone who I think has everything? It’s just so damn hard! Well, I have ten days and counting!

4 Dec

Holiday Shopping

Posted by Mizz Jae in Holidays.

I’ve definitely started my shopping early this year. I feel the Christmas spirit in the air when I’m out there shopping. It seems as though there are more shoppers this time around as compared to last year. I think this means the economy is slowly getting better. Anyway, I finished off all the girls in my list and most of the kids this morning. I bought all the gifts online. Thank goodness for free shipping codes. I also bought myself an early Christmas birthday gift last week- my new Blackberry Bold. I love it. At first I thought I would hate it because the battery kept running out, but I figured out what I was doing wrong. Now it’s working and I LOVE IT! I gotta love it for the next two years now because I had to renew my contract! Now I just have to get my Keurig Coffee Maker- and I will be set and happy!

It is so cold out that I don’t feel like going outside. Hopefully I can make use of my day off and start cleaning our bedroom and the girls’ rooms too. There is always so much to be done and not enough time in one day. At least we’ve caught up on our laundry last week. On that note, I’m off to clean our nasty bathroom. Be warm everyone!

1 Dec

The First Already!

Posted by Mizz Jae in Holidays.

It’s the first day of December- the last month of the year! It’s so sunny outside, but it’s probably colder than it looks. I wanted to start off this post with a picture of my kids from the month of November. They are growing right before my very eyes. Janelle has a very unique personality. She has NO patience whatsoever and gets frustrated very easily. She also gets easily amuzed. Jasmyne, on the other hand, is quite patient with her sister who tends to beat her up. Thankfully, she doesn’t fight back. She’ll just start crying and move to another spot away from her abusive little sister. They are so cute- and not only because they are my kids!

The christmas tree went up over the weekend. The house is pretty much decorated. This morning I woke up around 530am to take a shower anticipating Janelle’s wake up time. I wanted to have the energy to do stuff for the day. I made a list of all the people I have to buy gifts for- and yes, I checked it twice just like Santa. I organized the kids’ gifts, put them in their boxes and now it’s ready for wrapping. I pretty much have all the kids crossed off my list. I still have a crapload of things to buy though.

Now off to take Jasmyne to school and do some more shopping! Enjoy your day everyone! 24 more days until Christmas. Oh and 23 more days until the end of my 20’s and I welcome another decade. Blah!

29 Nov

HAPPY ONE YEAR!

Posted by Mizz Jae in My Blog.

JAESBEESWAX.COM turned one year today! I’m very proud to say that I have had over 6,500 hits to my website. I don’t exactly know how many readers I’ve got and I don’t know who’s actually reading my site. A lot of the emails I get are from other moms, from who knows where, that can relate to my posts.  Here is a link to my first post ever on my very own dot com. I was reading through my posts from last year and I can’t believe how much has changed in just a year. Obviously, a year ago was when I just had a baby, and truthfully, it was all a blur! It’s times like yesterday when I was able to read back about my life that I appreciate having my blog- because I can appreciate my life. Every entry I write is so important, even when I don’t think it is at the time.

Here are some of my favorite posts from the beginning!

Definitely, Maybe

Believe

Goodbye 2008

Random Things

27 Nov

and so it begins…

Posted by Mizz Jae in Holidays, Shopping.

The holidays have officially begun with the end of Thanksgiving. I feel like I’m always saying this, but I really can’t believe it’s that time of the year again. I had to work Thanksgiving, which was pretty rough cause I had my mind on my family, but it was well worth the pay because we were pretty slow. Dexter has to work today, but he’s off all weekend with me, so the shopping will begin then. I had to bust out and start my shopping list this morning. I’m so glad that I am feeling all warm and fuzzy over the holidays this year. I can’t even remember the last time I felt this way about the winter holidays. It normally makes me have butterflies and feel nauseated- honestly! Anyway, my inbox has been cramped with all these coupons and savings deals and codes and all the goodies. I rummaged through them early this morning when the baby woke up and started clicking away on the WWW. I didn’t think me going out with the kids in my double trouble stroller was gonna get me anywhere, so online shopping was my best bet. I did find some good stuff- in the comfort of my computer room and chair with the baby playing in the background. Oh so calm and relaxing. Later when the hubby gets home, I just want to go to Target and Michael’s to get some Christmas decor for the house. These two stores have been my weakness lately- more so than before.

On my list of things to get tomorrow for the post Thanksgiving sale: my new Blackberry Bold, which I heard was an extra $50 off until Saturday and My Keurig Coffee/Tea Maker! I want it damn it and I don’t care what my hubby says! I’m on a mission!

Anyway, I hope you guys had a Happy Thanksgiving. Time for the holidays to begin. I can’t wait to go to the Winter Wonderland at Navy Pier. Never been to it, but I KNOW the kids will love it. Check out the website for good coupons and free parking. Gotta love that!  I know I got that in my mail amongst all the other stuff!

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